Day 7: What to Say

When you lose your child, people always have to say something. I'm not sure if they're trying to make you feel better, or trying to make themselves feel better. I wish they would just stop trying so hard.

If you're wondering what you can say, or what you can do, let me help. When you're not sure what to say, there's no need to over think it, keep it simple.

The number one thing that you can do is to acknowledge our baby, our loss. "A person's a person, no matter how small..." our babies were here and they lived a lifetime in our hearts, and one of our biggest fears is that they will be forgotten.

When words won't come, the best thing is to keep it simple... "I'm sorry for your loss" it says everything. "I'm sorry, I'm not sure what to say", there's no need to make it complex, honesty works here. These are beautiful things to say.

If you feel the need to put religion in your words, remember what I said yesterday about religious references, a simple "you're in my prayers" is a perfect option. This is a beautiful thing to say.

And my favorite... Say his name, say Landon. You may see a tear in my eye when you say his name, but you can never feel the joy in my heart that you give when you say his name. Saying his name tells me you remember. This is the most beautiful thing you can do, this is the most beautiful thing you can say.

Day 7 is what to say... I've put together a picture with a few things that are perfect and I've put my favorite across the middle... Landon.